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Mysterious Mutuality

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  November 8, 2020
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Mutually Yours Abandoned L inda and I are just married. We’re off on our first shopping trip together, I think it’s Walmart. We’re just through the door, and I’m distracted with an article of interest to consider, probably a valuable food item. The next thing I know, Linda has vanished. It’s as if she was beamed up to the alien mothership, nowhere to be seen. I feel panic as I’m transported back to the little
Hi everyone! My book “Hope For Happily Ever After” is coming together and getting closer. I’m under contract with Illumify Media and we’re getting it written, organized and ready to go. The book focuses on “Finding connection in marriage,” and “developing the art of true love.” I’m praying it will bring hope and closeness to many, helping them identify disconnects, and remove the distance in their relationship. If you read this blog, (thank You,) and

I Forgave You Once

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  September 6, 2020
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It’s 1978 and I have a newborn son. I’m so excited about being a dad! I’m only 21 and I barely have an idea what I’m doing. I don’t know what’s coming, but I’m working hard to be a good provider and now a good father whatever that looks like. I have the example of Dad and how he illustrated the love of a good father. I can be that for my son who will

Dismantling Depression

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  July 18, 2020
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Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad. Proverbs 12:25 It’s easier to face a thing head on when we can see where it’s coming from It’s easier to fight my enemy when I can see him What causes depression and where does it come from anyway? I’ll begin by answering the second half of this question first, then we’ll get into the causes. First off, God doesn’t

Are We United?

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  June 28, 2020
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Behold how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell in unity! For there the Lord commanded the blessing—Life forevermore. Ps. 133:1-3We’re approaching independence day 2020. What a year!We don’t feel very “independent” in the middle of the COVID pandemic. Things are easing up a bit in Colorado, but there is still a real and present danger about. We aren’t out of the woods yet and need to be “wise as serpents and
Nothing hurts like a disconnected marriage. We can find the disconnects, and heal them. We can develop a strategy that brings hope. Awareness of what’s going on brings immediate hope. I can choose to change what I can see. “Oh, that’s what we’re doing!” So shall the knowledge of wisdom be to your soul; If you have found it, there is a prospect, and your hope will not be cut off. Proverbs 24:14 Cause and

Quarantine Romance

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  May 3, 2020
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Where are you my love? Where’s the one I knew and married on our wedding day? What happened to the spark we shared and love that lit our way? We used to share each happy thought & catch each other’s tears. Now it seems our love’s used up on bills, demands, and fears. I want to reach and touch your heart, but can’t seem to get in. Don’t know if we just don’t care, it’s

Conquering COVID-19

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  March 21, 2020
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It’s the end of the world as we know it, but I feel fine… REM Out in the zone Fear and distrust were written on the faces we passed as Linda and I rolled through the ravaged shelves of the store grabbing the essential items we could find. No-one spoke or smiled for fear of inhaling the virus from the ticking time bomb pushing the other cart. I spent the morning digging out of the

Wind In My Sails

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  February 20, 2020
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My Dad was an electrician on a ship in the Navy and he told me stories of being on the ship. I didn’t inherit the ship anointing. I did do a little sailing on what’s called a sailfin, a tiny sailing craft just larger than a wind surfboard. Two people can squeeze on with co-operation. I practiced tacking back and forth a while in this quiet marina until I had enough confidence to bring Linda

I feel connected when…

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  January 17, 2020
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I feel connected when… We spend quality time together.We slow things down enough to spontaneously do something fun together.We determine to find enough reserve in our lives together to do that.We’re present to each other without any screens to distract us.We talk together about the season of life we’re in & how we feel about it.We do a state of the union together, talking about how we feel we are doing in our marriage.We talk

C’mon, Man!

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  December 28, 2019
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If you watch the NFL, You’re familiar with the clip C’mon man! It’s a commentary of outtakes on different players in the league that do unconventional, uncool, or downright brainless things. These things violate the code of normal or proper conduct expected from professionals that are being paid the money they are to entertain us. Unsportsman or non-professional conduct could get you on C ‘mon, man. You don’t want to be on C’mon man. One

Five ways to disarm depression

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  November 15, 2019
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“Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.” Proverbs 12:251. Get in touch; “Why am I feeling anxious?” The answer to this usually isn’t self-evident, so I can’t see what I’m choosing. I can’t change my choices until I’m aware of how I’m choosing. I can’t break an agreement I’m making If I can’t see it. Depression and anxiety lurk beneath the surface of our awareness, and must
The more you know going in, the better the chances of your marriage succeeding. One half of all marriages don’t make it, Christian or not. Confessing God doesn’t give you relational skills, they must be learned, and fought for. Knowing God, without self discovery does not insure success. You can confess God, and live in denial, not taking responsibility for who you are. There’s nothing like getting married to find this out. Linda and I

Ghosts in time

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  October 7, 2019
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We are eternal ghosts in a temporal timeline. Shimmering like a mirage, there but not, we live out our days. Like mirrors, reflecting either glory or death, our choice given. Spirits eternally young, in wonder watching, time tolling on our bodies. Tethered to an eternal God, in His image, time passes. Waiting, we watch with hope for the door to open. Older we become, more accepting, anticipating the inevitable. No need to control the path,
They’re in the trees, waiting to jump When they jump It’s Friday evening, following a hectic, full, fast paced week, running the business. I need a letdown, to unwind and recharge, catch my breath and find my balance. As I pull into the driveway, the phone rings. It’s this new builder I’m building a relationship with. I better take this. “Hi Dan, I’m sorry to be calling this late, but I’ve got this emergency job

What I Really Need

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  August 10, 2019
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May I practice your presence Lord, instead of that of another. May I seek the comfort of your love when I feel the need for cover. The empty need I feel inside, I can never meet, it’s only through surrender, and sitting at your feet. We think we’ll find the things we need in many different faces, when really we’re just seeking love in mostly the wrong places. Loving Spirit come and be the compass

One is the loneliest number

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  July 28, 2019
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Many of you will remember the Three Dog Night song, with the single piano chord repeating… “One is the loneliest number, that you’ll ever do… Two can be as bad as one, it’s the loneliest number since the number one… I talked with a divorced woman at the fairgrounds the other evening at an event Linda and I were attending for the Aurora Chamber of Commerce. The topic of writing came up and I gave
When something happens that hurts me, I tend to feel betrayed, used, or taken advantage of. I internalize things, and can get stuck in a “paralysis of analysis,” where I try to make sense of things and figure it all out. My perfectionism and “need to please,” personality tries to trap me in consternation. Of course, control is always around, involving my need to surrender my will to God and what He wills. I’m only

Forsaking Fear

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  June 6, 2019
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The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. Proverbs 29:25 Those of you on the journey with me know that this transformation mountain is one you climb a step at a time. Revealed truth is grown into through process. From glory to glory, faith to faith. That is the journey. As I look at the title at the top, I feel it mocking me, as if I

Security, Trust, & Healing

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  April 18, 2019
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Intimacy in marriage is one of my core values. A marriage hurts when intimacy is not present. Intimacy is not just sex, although it’s an important component. It’s agonizing to hear of sexless marriages; they are out there, some anorexic at best. When someone asks “how often should you have sex in marriage?” My answer is “as often as possible.” I have scripture for that. Check out proverbs 5:15-23 How’s that for a hook? The

Working or Resting?

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  April 6, 2019
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For the law made nothing perfect; on the other hand, there is the bringing in of a better hope, through which we draw near to God. Hebrews 7:19 I’ve decided the devil has a pretty good memory, and he seems very diligent about keeping my memory intact concerning past sins. He also likes to amplify my present weakness, and vulnerability. Shame is associated with this mental traffic my enemy likes to run on the freeways

Out of control choices

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  March 30, 2019
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Which one is the rescuer, or the victim? Intruder alert! Looking at my ringing cellphone, instant anxiety, reading the caller ID, warning me it’s my brother, a year older than I. The drug addicted homeless one, who never calls to give me anything, except another hard luck down and out story, with the appeal for another rescue for him, and his plight. My heart always hurts after his calls, leaving me feeling hopeless, anxious, guilty,

Thoughts about control

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  March 27, 2019
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Thoughts about control God won’t compete with our control. When control enters the equation, God leaves it. Wherever control enters our life, addiction accompanies it. Whatever we try to control in life imprisons us, be it substance, power, sex, money, or relationship. Surrender is the eventual release from all forms of control. Surrender is the doorway to the grace that frees us.

Out of control living

Posted by Daniel Lillyblad on  February 2, 2019
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This is the beginning. Welcome to the out of control living blog. I am excited to get the page up, and find new friends to connect with! This has been a long time coming who’s time is now. 3.1.19 My goal is to post to this blog as often as possible, time permitting between running my contracting business, writing, and maintaining a vibrant marriage. If not always vibrant, at least life giving to both of

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